Friday, 17 January 2014

Guilt is to Motherhood what Grapes are to wine: The Prompt #1

This quote, from Fay Weldon doesn't sit well with me at all. The quote itself is fairly and unfortunately true for most mothers. We all have something we want to do that we feel we just can't or shouldn't because what if our children need us? What if I was doing something for me and something happened whilst I was not with my child? Oh! I'd feel like such a failure!
I'm sure we can all think of many things we have said or thought and even put off because of that lingering presence inside of us. That guilt of ours.

I've read that quote over and over again. It has played on my mind during the school run if truth be told getting more and more on my nerves. Why? Here's why: grapes. Grapes are the essential ingredient needed to make wine. If you do not have grapes then you do not have wine (or decent wine and that other stuff just won't do. You know, that pretend stuff- I can't drink my hard days child rearing away with that stuff!)

Guilt though. Guilt is not essential to motherhood is it. Guilt is not necessary or needed. 
Love, kindness, sympathy, empathy, presence,honesty and so much more are the ingredients that are essential to motherhood are they not?

You want a hot bath? Have one. A night away with your other half while the children are with their grandparents? Have one. Eating the children's last chocolate bar? Eat it! Better your teeth then theirs right?

Guilt is for those who've done wrong. And if all you've done is eat their sweets, return to work or enjoy a night out then well, I think you can say goodbye to guilt.

Cupcake Mumma

mumturnedmom

13 comments:

  1. Great post - love the angle you've taken on it x

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  2. Fab post, Hannah. I think guilt comes with motherhood, but it absolutely shouldn't be an essential ingredient as you so rightly say. Love this x

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    1. Thank you lovely for reading and commenting. I'm glad you agree I was worried about getting it all wrong!xx

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  3. Great post and you are absolutely right. Guilt may come hand in hand of being a mother but it is not an essential ingredient for motherhood. I just wish it was that easy to let go of! #ThePrompt

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    1. I know, another easier said than done thing right? Least we can take steps in the right direction though! Thank you for stopping by x

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  4. Completely agree - my main thought on the quote was 'should we feel guilty when we're not at fault?' - and really, we need to make a distinction between caring and worrying, which we should absolutely do, and feeling guilty - which we shouldn't! Love this post! Thank you so much for linking with #ThePrompt and I'm glad it got you thinking :)

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    1. Yes love the new link up and love an exercise in writing! I think you're completely right about making that distinction between the two we very early need to feel guilt!xx

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  5. I love the angle you have taken too - definitely did not think of it that way but you are absolutely right. Guilt does seem to come hand in hand with motherhood but it absolutely should not and does not HAVE to either. Brilliant post. #theprompt

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    1. Thanks so much Jess glad you like the post and it makes sense! I completely agree with you too x

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  6. I hadn't thought about it like that but now you've said it I completely agree with you. I think this linky of Sara's is going to be really interesting - reading lots of different takes on the same prompt. Wouldn't life be boring if we all thought the same things and had the same views?

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