How I Proposed

Announcing our engagement a few weeks ago was so much fun that I really wanted to share how I proposed (mostly for the fact everyone keeps asking me how HE proposed) and well, anyone who knows me knows I can't have him looking like the soppy one and taking all the credit! 

On the left, Hannah a white female holds up her hand with a silver engagement ring on. She has a big smile. Martyn, a white mail sits to her left wearing blog black glasses and smiling with a big grin.

To be fair, it is quite unusual, even in this day and age for a woman to propose to a man. According to a 2019 survey that I found before typing this up, I would be one of the 16% of women in a heterosexual relationship to propose; I knew it was low but not that low! 

Martyn and I had spoken about getting married many times in the past being keen to make sure we were on the same page. I think I always knew to some degree that I wanted to get married again some day but for a long time I know Martyn wasn't thinking of marriage. Until a while ago and that all changed.

The only question really left in my mind was when? I felt ready but I wasn't sure if Mart was the same. I knew he would say 'yes' but would he really be ready? I also worried with his terrible indecisiveness that I could be waiting forever! So it was time to just go for it.

Initially, I planned to wait until the summer when the boys were with their mum for a day or two and my two would be away with their dad. I thought about cooking a dinner and doing it at home, then realised my cooking sucks a bit but neither of us would be happy to eat out and be the centre of attention. 

I thought it might be nice to go to our favourite park but I couldn't work things out. So I actually prayed about it all one night and it all just hit me.

I ordered my ring. I loved doing this. I got to look for ages at pretty rings, I didn't have to worry about budgets because I could use my own money, I could buy exactly what I wanted knowing I would love it and knew it would fit me perfectly. I absolutely love it. My ring is from a small business seller on Etsy called The Aladdins Cave and it is lovely.

I then bought an old American coin from DogsandHats on Etsy. The purpose of this was that I stumbled upon it and it bears the words 'In God we trust' and the seller had engraved the words 'will you marry me?' as well. 

It was just perfect.

American coin Will you marry me engraved

On the 14th April, 7 days before the anniversary of us officially getting together, I couldn't contain my excitement. Martyn knew something was up.

 I gave him a small brown envelope. 

"Are you asking me to marry you?"

"Yes I am," I smiled. 

"Yes, of course, he replied. I'll need to get a ring now!"

I then pulled out a little blue box and handed it to him. He loves my organisation and it made him laugh. I let him pop the ring on my finger, (perfect fit of course) and we both just enjoyed this quiet moment.

Telling the kids some time later was so much fun. We got them to open envelopes with different words on and they put it together. All very excited and all happily overwhelmed they posed for several photos before life went back to normal. 

I think we did things the best way. I was getting all hooked up on what people would think, what society expects and I'm glad I went 'sod it' to it all. I loved asking Martyn, I loved taking the pressure he undoubtedly would have felt off his shoulders, I loved having the kids here with us and I loved doing it our way.

We will plan our big day for April 2023 and there's no danger of this becoming a wedding blog!

We Are Getting...


I feel so happy and blessed to be able to share this news with my lovely readers! After 4 years together and being friends for longer than that through the blogosphere, Martyn and I are happy to say we are indeed engaged.

I am so excited!

I was never going to be one of those people who separated from their partner, got divorced and would swear to never get married again. I am a hopeless romantic, so much so it was actually me, ME! who asked Mr K to marry him.

We are not the conventional type in this house!

Thank God we are all slightly crazy and totally original. We are an open family, we do some things differently from other families. I love our set up and the kids think it is awesome that I proposed to Martyn instead of the other way around.

I've wanted to propose to Martyn for a couple of months now. I thought waiting until summer would be the ideal time. I could wait for all the children to be away with their other parents, I could take Martyn to one of our favourite spots and do everything that way. I also thought I should wait until we had more understanding about Martyn's Dad's health and William's EHCP process.

I decided to pray about my plan. I heard clear as day in my head 'What are you waiting for?' 

My heart swelled and I smiled as lay sleepily in bed. I knew then that at some point in the week I had to propose. 

We spoke a while ago about wanting a marriage this time and not a wedding. We were both so young and caught up in the wrong things when we married our ex partners. This time it was about us and our children.

So our children have been involved. They all had to open an envelope with a word on and get together in the right order to make the sentence. 

We are so excited to spend the next year together knowing we will be man and wife. We will enjoy our engagement for a year while saving up and plan a small, intimate and geeky little wedding that will put us and our kids at the centre in 2023.

I hope you will all continue to come along for the ride! x

Birthday Boys and Double Digits!

I usually blog about the children's birthday individually but as the time has flown by since then I will have to pop them together. As it is, thanks to lockdown, neither A nor Will did anything that requires a lot of writing about!

First of all A entered double digits! He is now 10..TEN? I can't believe he has finally entered the doubles. He still seems so much younger than his peers but it is what it is (tries to stop thinking about the secondary application she has to fill in this autumn)

A was originally meant to be in Cornwall for his birthday but it didn't work out so I got my boy for his special day again. We didn't plan anything (obviously) but as usual the children always request their special birthday tea and we keep them to some sort of routine in terms of birthday breakfasts and gift opening etc.

Enjoying the Snow!

I was inspired by Kim from Life As Kim to write about our snow day here in Kent yesterday. 

We haven't had a decent snow fall for a couple of years now in Kent and the children have been moaning for months about it snowing almost everywhere else but here. Finally, we got snow!

A close up of a medium sized bare tree with small amount if white snow on the branches.

I Have a 13 Year Old!

It may be late but it's better late than never! My Midge has officially turned 13. A teenager. 

A photo of myself, a white, female teen wearing a black vest top with Midge as a baby in a white and pink baby gro lays on my chest.

Its mad to think I've kept this being, this wonderful, caring, sensitive and truly unique being alive and well for 13 years! 

Over her 13 years already she has moved 12 different times, gained step siblings and half siblings, moved away from family to set up a new life with her brother and I, had to settle into a blended family, start several different schools and has now settled into year 8 in this rather bizarre year.

Our 2020

So 2020 has finally left the room (hope the door smacked it on the way out!) and I am here to do our usual summery of the year. I have hardly blogged in 2020, I mean I really didn't see the point. Home learning with 4 children and riding the rollercoaster of emotions meant I also didn't really feel very much in the mood or have the energy to write really anything at all. 

I haven't had some meaningful blog break, I did consider jacking it in, I even went and set up a new blog but it didn't feel right in the end. This year Cupcake Mumma would be 10. Ten!? I cant give that up just yet. So I am going to carry on with my traditional yearly post, see if by some miracle I managed any of my 2020 goals and set some new ones for 2021 because well, it gives me something to do! 

Here is our (hopefully not too long) post about what the Cupcake Kitneys got up to in 2020.

Blind Taste Testing for Science Home Learning!

I was initially going to write up the weeks we were doing home learning and share what it is we're looking at school wise during lock down but surprise, surprise, it's all been rather busy and with 4 children at home doing such a variety of learning I thought I might just write up some of the things we do on and off instead of doing a boring old round up.

The two boys sat smiling excitedly at the table with the food in the middle of them. Both blindfolded and laughing.

We love a good science experiment in this house. We've enjoyed making and exploding volcanoes, making bottles fly like rockets and mixing random things to make all sorts of mess fun. One experiment we always enjoy but haven't done for a long time is a blind taste tasting!

What we used

A variety of foods and sauces (I'll list ours below but this is totally up to you)
A chopping board to hold all our items on
Spoons and/or forks for holding and dipping
A bowl each for any 'emergency 'spit outs' as we called it!
Tissue for cleaning up faces
Paper to record our likes and dislikes.