Wednesday, 9 April 2014

Tantrums and....More Tantrums Actually.

Every child tantrums. (Well, nearly every child) I just think my son is a little over the top when it comes to tantrums. He headbangs, lashes out with his feet, kicking me when I struggle to pick him up and remove him from the situation. He slaps his own face or head and screams blue murder. I'm sure a lot of children do this to be honest, I'm just not lucky enough to witness any more than the screaming toddler in the supermarket.

Thing is, it's wearing me down. I'm doing all I can. Ignoring, removing him from situations, trying to see possible problems before they even happen so I'm on the ball. It's not just these standard tantrums that get me down with A. It's the way he doesn't share toys, for example. Today a small child went to play with the same car garage he was playing with. Little A gave the child a slight push which made me feel mortified! The grandparent was there which was good for the boy, but she told A off too. I was too upset that this lady now thinks my child is nasty and spiteful to react to her. I told A off, I apologised to her but this is it. All the time I am waiting for what A does next.

Which shop will he be pulled from today when he kicks off because I said "no"?

Can I go to my coffee shop with A
without having to leave with him screaming because he's not happy about leaving their toys behind?

Will he hit a child, push a child at any playgroups we attend? Will he get me, his Mum who suffers with social anxiety, into a confrontation with another parent because he's reacted badly. Because he won't share?

I don't care that tantrums are normal.

I don't care that this is just a phase.

I just care about 3 1/2 year old Little A. About 4 year old Little A. About my anxiety being pushed to breaking point with each morning I wake deciding if I brave outside with my toddler today or if I'm not strong enough for the tutting and the stares.

I just want it all to stop. I just want my friendly, happy Little A to be what everyone else sees, not just me and my family.

Cupcake Mumma

5 comments:

  1. For your sake I hope this is a short "phase". Both mine went through periods when they would mortify me with their behaviour and I would avoid certain situations... Thank God that isn't the case any more but I can totally relate to your situation x

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  2. Oh honey :( tantrums are awful I feel your pain.. I feel totally stuck with Hugo as late his tantrum have escalated.... here if you need a chat :) xx

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    1. Thanks Bex, I may take you up on that offer to chat! It's easier to stay in sometimes!! xx

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  3. Oh no, it is hard. Alex went through a bad stage when he was about 2 1/2 it really is hard going and I did stop meeting up with people who had smaller children sometimes but it does get easier, they do get better. I know how horrible it feels being 'on edge' when out and about xx

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    1. I'm glad it gets easier! I never had such trouble with Midge so it is totally new to me! thanks for stopping by! xx

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