Thursday, 30 October 2014

My Reasons to be Cheerful

I haven't been able to blog properly for some time and if you could see my current set up you'd understand why (laptop, keyboard, temperamental mouse, phone also attached for photos) as you can imagine it hasn't been easy to muster the enthusiasm to write! Nor has it been making me cheerful!

What has been making me cheerful though is my very recent trip to the Harry Potter Studios with my Mum and Midge. We all loved it, me more than anyone else. For someone with social anxiety I seemed to let go of all that. I was one of 3 shouting out proudly to being a Hufflepuff and I may (I did) get a little teary when the Great Hall doors were revealed (what can I say? I'm a true Harry Potter fan!)

Yesterday I had another reason to smile. My 25th birthday! I was spoilt by the family with a new phone, slippers, Care Bear PJ bottoms, books, stationery oh so much to be honest! My very wonderful friend Kat sent me a surprise vase of flowers ( with several of my favourites) plus a card and cupcake balloon. How thoughtful, I definitely had tears in my eyes !

I'm also enjoying half term with the children. We've bought our pumpkins, we're excited for Halloween tomorrow and we've made some rather cool orange glitter playdoh which we had fun with today. I'd love to hear what's been making you all cheerful too so please join in too!

Ojos World

Dennis the Menace Beano Annual 2015!

Yes! The two craziest and most unruly original rule breakers are back and this year they're making it big by hopping on the Beano town Express to London's St.Pancras station to create some fun and mischief throughout Autumn to get us excited for their fab new 2015 annual.

Dont miss out!

As a child I spent many a day watching Dennis the Menace with my brother and just like many others we loved it a lot. This year, The Beano Annual features all of your favourite characters from Dennis and Gnasher as well as The Numskulls, The Bash Street kids and Minnie the Minx all creating havoc in cartoon sketches, quizzes, puzzles and more.

Little A can enjoy these more simple cartoon strips with less writing featured.

One of our favourite pages so far

Enjoy the 75 years of Beano fun at one of our most iconic London Stations or enjoy it right now at home with your very own wacky, cheeky, full of fun Beano 2015 Annual. Priced at £7.99 I'm thinking this is a fantastic annual to get under the Christmas tree this year.

I was sent a free copy of  the Dennis the Menace Beano Annual 2015 in exchange for an honest review. All opinions and photos are, as usual, my own (unless specified)

Cupcake Mumma

Thursday, 16 October 2014

Create your own Cards and Gift Tags!

I'm really pleased to be writing this because the bits and bobs that came in the post for me recently were from blogging friend Joy and I do like to help a fellow blogger when they have great ideas. I also love anything paper related being obsessed with stationery, notebooks, craft bits and anything else you can think of!

I made a promise to myself this year to get more creative with birthdays and other occasions by using the bits I've collected over time in my craft drawer. I also wanted to use up my various unused stash of cards that have started cluttering my desk! Ultimately the task was to not spend very much at all on cards this year and opt for being creative instead. I've done really well and will do the same next year!

Joy who blogs at Daisy Row has just started selling little 'do it yourself' gift tag and card packs on her other site Station Harry, with Fab Rick and the Yarnbirds and here on Facebook.

I've never made my own gift tags before because I grew up just writing the recipients name on their gift but gift tags look so much nicer and I enjoyed making these. I got a pack of materials including fabrics, ribbons, paper and small embellishments plus a few stickers.

In my second pack, Joy sent me pre folded cards with envelopes, plus the above to make some pretty cards. Little A helped me with a couple too, he does like to be involved with sticking!

These cards and gift tags were really good fun to make and I even have some bits left over to keep my craft drawer stocked up! I think all ages can enjoy creating with Joys packs. My favourite items included were the various papers and there were some lovely embellishments for me to use too. I'm not so keen on fabrics because I think they look a bit messy and I always end up with frayed edges! I think the fabrics would look better for crafting if they were cut with some funky craft scissors (like zig zags) so perhaps I should invest in some!

Please do pop over and visit Station Harry etc and view Joys' packs which can be made up to your own specific theme (colours, seasons, occasions etc) and Joy even sells (nice and early!) packs ready for Christmas.

Gift tag packs are priced at £1.75 or two for £3.00 and card packs are £2.75 or two for £5.00. I received a pack of each free of charge in return for an honest review.

Cupcake Mumma

Saturday, 11 October 2014

International Day of the Girl

That's what today, the 11th October 2014 is all about. Raising awareness of the inequality and stolen decisions thousands of girls around the world suffer daily. 

As a woman living in the UK I have many rights. I will not be forced into marriage by my family. I married young (at 23) but I did not ever worry that I would be married to a stranger, or a relative stranger at the ages of 15-18 like 41,095 young girls are today. In some countries, forced marriage happens even earlier and it is heart breaking to hear of young girls having their childhood stolen, being forced to marry and start a family so young.

I started a family when I was 18. I was pregnant at 17. Many young girls across the world are much younger when they discover they are with child. Many girls fall pregnant after suffering a sexual attack (rape) whilst others who are still young but enter puberty (start menstruating) are seen as able to bring children into the household. Whether they'd want to or not.

47,000 women (of which young girls are included) die due to unsafe abortion every year. Think whatever you like about abortion, right or wrong, every female deserves a choice when it comes to having children and changing their lives forever. Especially when a girl finds out she is pregnant after being raped. We should always have a choice to continue a pregnancy after suffering a sexual and violent attack, the impact on mental health can be massive and it is important that these girls have information, support and options. Sadly they don't, and  today 191 child brides will die during labour.

International Day of the Girl is about raising awareness for these bright, strong and intelligent girls. They should have rights, they should have education and they should options just as boys and men do. They should not be forced to marry, to die in labour, to carry unwanted children conceived through crime. They should not be one of the 8,000 girls to suffer female genital mutilation (FGM) (a destructive operation, during which the female genitals are partly or entirely removed or injured with the goals of inhibiting a woman's sexual feelings.) in Africa or one of the 54 girls under 15 HERE in the UK today.

Please consider signing this petition to help Plan UK do all they can to fight for these girls and their futures. Please follow PlanUK and visit their website here for more information. It's incredibly important to use our voices when those who are in need cannot always use their own.

Every girl deserves a future. So I lend my voice to this day and hope that one day, every girl will have the same options and choices as we are so lucky to have here.

Monday, 6 October 2014

Dettol's Baby Blanket Donation!

I remember leaving the birthing unit where I had both my children. It was chilly on both occasions (it was winter after all) I had dressed them in their chosen hats and baby gros (both outfits made my babies look incredibly small!) and I placed their very first blankets across them for their very first journey home. 
I loved that they both had their own 'blankies' and I love that Little A is still very much attached to his knitted white blanket too. That is my memory of my babies and their first soft, clean and cosy blankets and I'd love to hear yours!

Dettol is asking each of us to #sharethememories in their new Baby Blanket Campaign with fellow Mum Rachel Stevens. With everyones help, we can also give others a chance to have their happy memories with their babies first special blanket.

As part of their campaign, Dettol are asking people to collect blankets or even post just one to help those families, both in the UK and abroad. Many babies are born into underprivileged homes each year and with your help, Dettol will collect your blanket donations, wash them with Dettol Anti-Bacterial laundry cleaner which kills 99.9% of bacteria when washed below 30 degrees (incredibly important since baby blankets understandably can collect and carry a variety of bacteria, even after a 40 degree wash!) 

Each blanket donated and washed will be passed on to a family in need and Dettol will also donate £1 for every blanket to the charity Sparks (a children's medical research charity which works tirelessly to fund pioneering research into medical conditions including (but not limited to) Spina Bifida, Cerebral Palsy, birth asphyxiation and childhood Cancers)

I hope you'll agree that Dettols Baby Blanket Donation is a fantastic idea. Please consider posting a blanket or more then one (no stamp required!) to:

Dettol Baby Blanket Donation
Balcombe Place Stables
RH17 6AZ

Please share your baby blanket memories on Twitter using #sharethememories or share them on Facebook here. You can see full details of the campaign by visiting-

Thank you so much for reading!

Cupcake Mumma 

*Dettol did send me a free bottle of their laundry cleaner which you can buy in supermarkets for £4.50. This didn't however have any influence over my decision to work with Dettol on this campaign. I genuinely think this is a campaign worth supporting.*

Sunday, 28 September 2014

Striking Mums- We're all Different

Kate has been taking a number of fellow mums through a striking mums journey. I have been reading her posts, I have been viewing the link ups of fellow bloggers and leaving comments when I have managed to. As you can see this is my first post for Striking Mums, for some reason over the last few weeks I just haven't been able to put into words how I feel about certain topics and questions. They've all been very inspiring posts that Kate has written and I decided to think more privately but now my blogging mojo has returned, I'm ready to join Kate and the other wonderful mothers. I start with Kate's questions on being different.

1. Are you different and, if so, how?

I'm one of these people that believe we are all very different. We are all here for a reason. I'm included in that. I can't tell you my reason, not accurately but I'm different in that I am a lot, lot more sensitive than a lot of people and I look at the story behind a person. I think a lot before I speak, before I act and I always want to make people feel better. I'm not perfect and especially with my family I can be bad tempered and quick to snap. My difference is my reason to be here, to help people in some way. I'm sure one day it'll maybe become a career.

2. Do you celebrate your uniqueness or strive to fit in?

I suppose I celebrate it in a way. I love to share random acts of kindness and tend to show what I've done in regards to that. Not for the self gratification but in the hope I can inspire further acts of kindness. Otherwise I don't really. I hate that I'm super sensitive, I don't particularly like that I'm an introvert and never go to my husbands football team get togethers despite them all being lovely people. But I can't change, really I can't. There's a block there and in some moments I kind of realise I wouldn't want to be very social. I love that I seek joy in a hot chocolate, a large duvet and a phone call/DVD reading or letter writing.

3. Are you ever judgemental of other mums who are different from you? Answer honestly even if only in your own head.

In general I am not someone who severely judges another person.
If you know me in person you would know I have a thing for a group of mothers at school. I don't dislike them, in fact I do not know them but they do not let many penetrate their tight knit group, they come across as rude and fairly self indulged. I have made judgments on those mothers and I have no doubt in my mind they have their own towards me and all the other mothers they won't look at let alone speak to. I'm sure they are very nice people, but perhaps I am not one of 'their' people.

4. What would you like to be different about you?

I'd like to take things to heart less, it's incredibly frustrating and draining but I don't really know how to not be affected by other people's words. I also worry that I would lose a part of myself and be less caring and understanding.

5. Have you ever being attacked or bullied for being different? How did that affect you?

The biggest difference I have and always have had is a physical difference. I've written before about excessive blushing, it's very painful for me and my bullying started at 9 years old. I was made to feel uncomfortable in my first two years at secondary and was bullied again at age 14 which started off a very rebellious phase for me, hiding my anxieties and acting out. I guess I gave myself a false confidence and in a bad way. I didn't use it for my education that's for sure! It has affected me to this day and whilst I have done things I am incredibly proud of there are loads of things I can't do because I'm just too scared.

6. If you had to write an advert for yourself as a limited edition ,what would you say to make people think you were great?

Like everyone else I don't feel I can find any words to answer this question! It's much easier to hear great things from your loved ones and friends but to 'big yourself up' feels some what difficult, I wonder why that is?

Please join Kate and Striking Mums here:

Kate on thin Ice Striking Mums

Friday, 26 September 2014

When Nursery Anxieties Become Real

Yesterday I stood waiting at the nursery gate overhearing a mum being told her son had been pinched on his back by another child, that he was okay and both children said sorry to each other over whatever the incident was. "Oh God please don't be A" I thought. Then the nursery teacher smiled at me, called A out and I realised with a huge sigh of relief that it wasn't my son who had hurt a fellow classmate.

Then the head of the nursery asked to speak to us..turns out A had been involved in an incident that day, at playtime, with a reception child. He had slapped the child so hard he had left a mark. I was mortified. Gutted. They couldn't tell me exactly what had happened and they said A couldn't tell them. They said a teaching assistant only caught what looked like the older child running past A and then A slapped them. "Perhaps they accidentally knocked him?" They suggested.

That's enough with A. When he is so focused on something and someone snatches an item he is playing with, or knocks/hits him even by accident he will take it incredibly personally and will lash out.

I was surprised that the teacher I was speaking to was so confused as to why he couldn't tell them what had happened. Why she was confused that A didn't say sorry when prompted, instead repeating everything she was saying, including the apology. He is in speech therapy. He doesn't KNOW HOW TO COMMUNICATE. He will REPEAT EVERYTHING YOU SAY.

Today I want to keep him home. I am terrified of bumping into the parent of the child he hit. I am sure he will do it again, and I hate that I know this. He will be known as the nasty boy. The boy who you shouldn't hang around.

He is friendly, happy, curious. He just zones out and he still just can't talk to me or anyone else like the rest of his classmates can and it's breaking my heart. Yes I am taking this very hard. I am his Mother and as such it is assumed by other parents who may one day find out that A has hurt their child that I don't care, or that I don't teach him right from wrong. I am a GOOD Mother, I do not hit my children, I do not allow it in my house, I do not show violence or anger towards my Husband or anyone else.

But I am lost. I want him to talk. Everyone tells me I will have that one day and wish he'd shut up but I can tell you now, the day he leaves nursery and tells me about his fun like his friends do will be magic. And I will never wish for silence.

All I can do now is speak to his teachers, hope, implement some things both here and at nursery, read him books on not hitting. All I'm doing today is feeling scared and crying for myself and my boy for many different reasons.

Cupcake Mumma

Thursday, 25 September 2014

The Lego Movie- Everything Is Awesome!

Yep, thanks to we have recently been able to watch and review this fantastic movie (and get the very popular theme song firmly rooted in our ears!) Both Midge and Little A were beyond themselves with excitement when they opened the little package containing the DVD yesterday. They both play with Lego, not the small stuff, the bigger Lego for now but I'm pretty sure it won't be long before the little tubs start arriving at my house..possibly for Christmas!

The Lego Movie follows the main character Emit, an ordinary builder getting along in Lego City and his job when he is mistaken as 'the special one'. He proceeds to go on a journey with many well known and wonderful Lego characters to travel through different worlds desperately searching for the 'Piece of Resistance' that will help save the world!

I shall say no more! I, a notorious film hater, didn't pay much attention until the end of the film when I realised this was no ordinary animated movie and proceeded to re watch it before school this morning with the children..It was Awesome! The children loved it, my husband thought it was great too!

For adults and children alike, this is one movie not to miss.

We were sent a free copy of The Lego Movie DVD for the purpose of this review. All opinions are my (or my families) own. 

Cupcake Mumma

Thursday, 18 September 2014

Happy Birthday CupcakeMumma!

Yes! CupcakeMumma is 3 years old! The only thing I've ever stuck to is child rearing (and lets face it, I don't have a huge choice there wink wink) so I am thrilled to still be here 3 years later and enjoying blogging.

As a thank you, I've put together a little gift for my faithful readers. Just leave comment on my blog, perhaps tell me what you like, if you'd like to see something in particular on here or your favourite post?

Here's what I've put together:

Retro sweets (which have been placed into a more attractive tin), mini marshmallows, mini notebook, woodland embellishments, cherry keyring, pencil case and an iron on clothes transfer. It's not much but it's a thank you.

Here's to another year!

Cupcake Mumma x

Wednesday, 17 September 2014

A Letter to my Younger Self

Dear Hannah

You don't really watch doctor who right now (you should) but let's just say you've managed to hop aboard a cool time travelling box with a handsome man to deliver this letter to your 17 year old self. You're currently pregnant, 1st or 2nd trimester, that wasn't clever but dont worry it'll all be fine. Your daughter won't sleep much so you should cram that in rather than watching trashy tv until late. Make sure you talk more and be honest with those around you. You're going to be exhausted, sore. Start speaking up for yourself. You'll never be one for confrontation or giving your opinion but you do start to say 'no' more often in the future, I'd suggest you go for it now. A room full of people will want to visit you when your baby girl isn't even 24 hours old. Please say no, or make sure someone says no, please!!

Save your money. You don't particularly waste it but you do have plenty of moments of spending a bit too much. Trust me you'll need the pennies, there's a few spanners in your future works. You'll get through it but it would be easier without borrowing money. I can't tell you more than that. If I do you won't end up in the lovely place you are now.

Things will be tough for a few years but you're not alone. Communicate with your future husband (yes you do get married, and yes it is in 2012 like he always said so stop badgering him and wasting your time, having arguments etc, you are so lucky to have him) Don't do that college course you're thinking about, it'll be seriously bad for you, not doing it doesn't change your future it'll just make your anxiety worse. Don't worry, you'll break your anxiety to a certain degree, I'm still working on the rest, we dogreat things!

A few other pointers: Stay in the birthing pool, don't destroy your diaries and notebooks because you will wish you had them still. You love to write, you have loads of pen friends; it's your favourite hobby! So is keeping memories and you'll often wish you had kept more than one silly year 7 Winnie the Pooh calendar dairy! Finally, very soon you'll be totally banished to the free from aisle in the supermarket. Don't carry on eating and making yourself feel like a fat sick thing, I happily condone the spending of some of those saved pennies on chocolates you love, cereals that actually stop tasting like cardboard (you better believe it!) and oh yes, pretty soon you'll be able to get cakes, biggish cakes that you can scoff all to yourself (you do, you're pregnant, no one judges you. Well may be a bit) so I'd suggest a stock up of those.

All my love
Hannah (you) xxxxx

Ps Don't eat quite so much after the babies, don't buy a bed from pound stretcher, don't dither about blogging because it's the making of you in many ways and lastly, don't lose yourself. I'm struggling to find a bit of the old you, the you you're soon to be in a few years. Fun, crafty, really happy. Hold on to that for me. Oh, and don't get a dog, your Dads right..

Cupcake Mumma

This post was written in partnership with Legal & General as part of their 'what would you say to your younger self' campaign.